Would you rather a girl was honest with you about what she wanted from the start or do you like the mysterious playing hard to get type? Do you prefer to have the thrill of the chase or know what she wants?

First of all, I have some advice for the ladies. “MEN DO NOT TAKE HINTS VERY WELL”. So for the most part, I like the direct approach. I do not want to invest a lot of time and effort into trying to “figure out” what a woman likes, only to find that we have opposing wants, values and goals.

Playing hard-to-get is juvenile thinking. If you’re interested, show it. If you’re not interested, then it’s fine to be polite but keep minimum contact. As long as you’re not going overboard too early when showing interest, then it should be fine if she’s interested back. If she’s not interested back, then you move on. Unrequited interest happens all the time with both genders. Showing him interest is not fluttering your eyelashes while wondering why he hasn’t approached you and asked for your number yet. Showing interest is a matter of repeatedly going out of your way to smile at him, talk with him, etc.

However, the right mix of both is healthy. I’m not sure I ever want to be super surprised about something so much that I am saying to myself “I thought I knew her better than that”, but at the same time having everything always as the same ‘ole same ‘ole takes the fun out of it all. The best relationships I’ve ever had are the ones where a woman gives me just enough honesty and comfort to make me feel secure, but not so much that all the “chase” is gone…..