How To Build Trust In A Relationship

Filed Under (Relationship) by harvey96

Usually, what really make a relationship work are not the things that we think of first. For example, do you think you always need to spice things up? That is wrong! Let your partner knows what to expect is more important than variety in a relationship. Here are the 7 ways that guaranteed to grow your connection by improving the trust in a relationship.

Firstly, you need to give signal. This goes against the common notion that you need to “stir things up” to keep the romance alive. I don’t deny that going to meet at a new restaurant or giving a surprise gift can be nice, but more importantly, we need to be consistent to make our relationships work. Consider that trust in a relationship is built on being reliable.
Secondly, you need to make sure that what you”walk the talk”. Your partner needs to hear the words which match your body language. If you say you are happy but you are frowning, your partner doesn’t hear your words, he or she sees your face and the tone in your voice. Your partner needs to be able to trust what you are saying. When the words match the message, you build trust in a relationship.

Third, you need to have a fundamental belief in your partner’s competency. When lovingly communicated, the truth is never destructive. When you don’t believe in your partner’s competency at certain things, you betray the trust in a relationship.

Next, do not be too secretive! Secrets destroy the trust in a relationship. Try to be honest and open. Assume everything you know will eventually come out. Secrets require a lot of energy on your part. That is energy that could be going into building the relationship.

Fifth, be frank with your partner about what you need. Do not make him or her guess what you need. It is alright to be self-centered but not selfish. In fact, if you are reluctant to assert your needs, you may go overboard in the opposite direction and smother your partner.

Sixth, learn when to say no. It is good to be able to hear your partner say their needs. But you don’t have to say yes to everything, your partner will not respect you if you never say no. Refusing to be subjugated to the other person’s will actually build trust in a relationship.

Finally, always pursue growth. When you plant a flower, you begin by digging in the dirt. Digging in the dirt of our relationships can sometimes cause pain. But, through that pain, we prepare the soil for future growth. Do not be afraid of turmoil, these become the fertilizer for growth and change. Learn to embrace difficult situations.

When you decide to work on trust in a relationship, there bound be pain in it initially. As you work through this stage, you are a stronger person.

Apr 2009