All of us are human being who may get angry over different things, impulse in the first reaction and fighting over the trivial matters. We sometimes make mistakes but most don’t like to admit it either?.  However, don’t think that an apology is just an admission of a wrong doing, it’s an admission that we understand that we unintentionally caused an upset in our partner’s life. It’s about communicating that you’re not so caught up in yourself that you don’t realize the effect you have on your partner.

When the time comes for you to make an apology, apply the following simple principles to make your amends.

1. Make the apology about them, not you- How often have you heard an apology start off with an excuse? When you are giving reasons for your behaviour you’re not showing your partner that you care about their feelings. You’re actually communicating that you are worried about yours. Make sure your intent isn’t to get the focus off of you.
2. Listen to your partner and then acknowledge it- It’s difficult to listen to negative things being said about ourselves. However, if we hope to bridge the gap, we need to listen in order to understand our partner’s point-of-view. Once you know what has caused the upset, be sure to acknowledge that you understand. For example, “I can see how being late made you feel like you’re not a priority to me. I’m sorry that it made you upset. I should have called to let you know what was going on.”
3. Make amends-When you’ve hurt someone’s feelings it’s important to give a little something extra back. Imagine it’s like putting your apology into action. If you’ve caused an upset, make an effort to do something a little out of the ordinary to make up for it. Let them choose what movie to watch; cook their favourite dinner.
4. Handle the original problem-If you repeat causing the upsets with your partner; it might be time for an internal look at why you are repeating actions that you know upsets them. Talk it through with your partner and try to come to some sort of compromise or solution to the situation.

Sometimes, a warm cuddle or tight hug without a word will do the magic.  It could be the best medication to make-up after not seeing eye to eye.