“I Love You” & “I’ m In Love With You” Is there a difference?
I don’t remember where I picked this thing up. But It just strikes my mind again today…Is there a different?

Being a person who learnt English as second language, I don’t see a different between the two in the beginning. To me, it was just different phrase to express your love to someone.
Come to think of it the second time, it can mean different thing depends on how you use it. “I love you” can be used in romantic way but you can also love other people just not in romantic way. For instance, you can love your friends but you’re not “in” love with them. You can say “I love you” to anything, your wife, your uncle, your mum or your pet but you will not say “I’ m in love with you”.

“In love with you” is more intense and only shows romantic feelings. So when someone says they are in love with you. It’s a whole deeper meaning… not something that would be used on a more casual basis.

The word love is tossed around so much that when it’s said to you personally, or you say it to someone you need to mean it. I love pizza, I love that dress etc. See…it’s just too easy to say you love something.

I believe you head a lot of stories from here and there, about peoples ending their relationships of several years as each day passes. Did you pause and think about these phenomena? Is it possible to keep romance going for decades with only one person, or is it just an illusion? Why are men more romantic than women? Why I say this is because of the fact that men are the ones writing poems, love letters, coming up with special surprises most of the time. I know not all the time, but I’ve been that it was the case most of the time. Why? In movies and novels women seem to be more romantic but in real life, it is the opposite.

There are different schools of thought. Some said it is totally unrealistic to think romance will last forever due to people change with environment and experiences in life, they grow up, and they mature. Life itself is never constant, and it’s the same thing with romance. Indeed, nothing lasts forever. One shouldn’t base life on what one sees in Hollywood or reads in romance novels. Real life is vastly different. Especially for most teens and young peoples, they are totally into anything romantic and they believe in all this “forever and ever” stuff. Sure, romance is nice, but to expect it to be there all the time, every day, last forever, etc is just being delusional. Reality doesn’t work that way.
On the other side of the coin, some insisted that romance can last forever! But it’s not something that just happens. It’s truly an effort on both sides to go out of your way for the other person even when you may not feel like it. It’s about putting the other people’s needs and feelings before your own. It would be sweet of you to wake up a little early to slip a note in your spouse pocket/hand beg before he/she leaves for work. It might brighten his/her day. You know?? It doesn’t just happen–you have to consciously think about it and make an effort.

For me, I think romance changes over time, but if both people work at it, it will not die. I truly believe this. Call me a fool, but romance can and does last! Romance is a two way street. You can’t begin a romance when it’s one sided. You can’t hold on to one unless both keep working at it. When one person doesn’t bother doing the extra’s anymore, the other thinks, “Why should I have to do it all?”

Do you agree with me? Your comments are welcome

It depends on the couple, which doesn’t give any answers lol… but I think it really does depend

Living together before marriage has a way of bringing out everyone’s true habits and true nature, and that is what makes it hard. Any problem that arise before you adjust to living together, such as one being messier than the other and not pulling their weight with the chores, will get sorted out before you get married and won’t put a damper on the newly wedded bliss.

I’ve seen many couples who lived together before marriage break up because the woman always wanted to get married and thought it would happen once they’d been living together for a while but the man never wanted to get married. So before you move in with anyone…you better have a strong foundation.

If only they’d discussed how they felt about marriage before they moved in together, sure they would probably have still broken up, but at least they wouldn’t have spent so much time on a relationship that wasn’t going to last, and wouldn’t have had the added hassle of changing living arrangements when they broke up. So personally I think it’s dangerous to move in together without first discussing your views on marriage.

But if the couple have discussed marriage and agree it’s something you both want and you both want to live together first then I don’t see any problem with it. If both of you already sure you want to get married, I don’t think it’s a bad idea. But I think how good an idea it is depends somewhat on how old you are, whether you’ve both lived away from your parents already or not, and how much time you’ve actually spent together as a couple given it’s an LDR. If you’ve both always lived with your parents and haven’t spent a lot of time together in person then it would be a good idea to live on your own or with friends closer to each other so that you can learn to live on your own and spend more time together before you move in together. But that’s just my personal view.

Anyway, I don’t think it’s a good idea to use living together as a test of your relationship. I think that if you’re not already sure that you’re right for each other and can make it work then there’s too big a chance that it won’t work and you’ll break up and you’d be better off not moving in together (at least until those doubts are gone).

As for myself, I moved in with my gf (That was 10 years ago anyway). Ironically, my reason for doing that was none of the above. I did not think too much (I was young and innocent thenJ) because what I wanted was to save living cost since we both live far from our families then. Fortunately, we did not have any major relationship problem after that and got married 2 years later.

If you are too shy to meet up with women, here could be the solution. In June 2008, Sega Toys introduced the Eternal Maiden Actualization (EMA) robot. The curvy, feminine-looking android is 15 inches tall and can plant kisses on humans. Sega officials say EMA can “act like a real girlfriend.

This prompted me to think further. How long more will it take to see a 100% human like look and feel “robot”? Technology has advanced enough to satisfy our need for love and sex, we finally see the fantasy become a reality with the release of this robotic girlfriend. Is this what we want for our future? If the technology advancement makes the robots totally human like, there will a day that we see more human having a robotic partners rather than real human being.

The good things are more peoples will live happily because they can choose and “programme” their ideal partner the way they like. The introvert men don’t have to worry about no partner. The robots will be able to perform anything from housework to satisfying your sexual needs (And they don’t complain, I assume…). There will be no worry about food shortages since these peoples don’t eat like we do.

On the other hand, these phenomena will cause reduction in the world’s population. There will also be the day when human being ruled by robots as the number of real human will become too little to command. There will be a day when we don’t know whether the person we meet is a real one or robot (robot may also pick up one bad habit from the human being, lyingJ)

The EMA robot will go on sale in September for around $175 and will be targeted towards lonely adult men. Sega is hoping to sell over 10,000 units in the first year.

Using her infrared sensors and battery power, the EMA enters into a sort of “love mode” and will pucker up to kiss any nearby human heads. She can also walk and dance when in the presence of another human being. For the moment, this is what she can do but expect more from the future version of robotic girlfriend.

Please comment to share your thoughts… Good day!

Yesterday, I came to know more about the photo of the man who carried his wife dead body on the motorcycle after the 512 Sichuan earthquake. In my previous post title His Love To His Wife, I mentioned that the man who use his motorcycle to carry his wife’s dead body to the nearby mortuary. In fact, that was not the true story. But his love to his wife is true. It is suppose to be like this…

The man, Mr. Wu had just had his lunch with his wife on 12 May. Mrs Wu wanted to go to the town to charge her handphone (god know why one need to go to the town area to get her handphone charged). There she separated with Mr Wu who went home then. After the earthquake which struck Sichuan at 2.28pm, Mr Wu who was escape unscratched, rush to the town centre to look for Mrs Wu. To his disappointment, Mr Wu found his wife’s body under the rubble of a collapsed structure. With the help of the police presented there, Mrs Wu’s body was safely tied to Mr.Wu.s body on the motorcycle. That was the normal position Mrs Wu had as a pillion rider. She normally talk to Mr. Wu when Mr Wu fetched her but that day, Mrs Wu could no longer talk. Mr Wu carried a cold and silent body of his wife.

He took his wife body home and buried her body at his house front yard as he wants to see his wife everyday.

There are many factors that go into creating a loving relationship. Certainly it helps if two people have some things in common regarding how they like to spend their time. It also helps if they have common values around religion or spirituality, around politics, the environment, abortion, and personal growth. It helps if they both eat junk food or both eat organic food. It makes things easier if both are neat or both are messy, if both are on time people or both are late people. Physical attraction is also quite important. It’s great if they have common values around money and spending.

Yet a couple can have all of these and still not have a loving relationship if one element is missing. Without this essential ingredient, all the other wonderful attributes will not be enough to make the relationship work.

This essential ingredient is about intention.

At any given moment, each of us is devoted to only one of two different intentions: to control or to learn. When our intention is to control, our deepest motivation is to have control over getting love, avoiding pain, and feeling safe. When our intention is to learn, our deepest motivation is to learn about being loving to ourselves and others.
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One day, Plato asked his teacher, “What is love? How can I find it?”

His teacher answered, “There is a vast wheat field in front. Walk forward without turning back, and pick only one stalk. If you find the most magnificent stalk, then you have found love.”

Plato walked forward, and before long, he returned with empty hands, having picked nothing. His teacher asked, “Why did you not pick any stalk?” Plato answered, “Because I could only pick once, and yet I could not turn back. I did find the most magnificent stalk, but did not know if there were any better ones ahead, so I did not pick it. As I walked further, the stalks that I saw were not as good as the earlier one, so I did not pick any in the end.

His teacher then said, “And that is love.”

On another day, Plato asked his teacher, “What is marriage? How can find it?”His teacher answered, “There is a thriving forest in front. Walk forward without turning back, and chop down only one tree. If you find the tallest tree, then you have found marriage.” Plato walked forward, and before long, he returned with a tree. The tree was not thriving, and it was not tall either. It was an ordinary tree. His teacher asked, “Why did you chop down such an ordinary tree?”

Plato answered, “Because of my previous experience. I walked halfway through the forest, but returned with empty hands. This time, I saw this tree, and I felt that it was not bad, so I chopped it down and brought it back. I did not want to miss the opportunity.”

His teacher then said, “And that is marriage.”

The 512 earthquake in Sichuan, China has destroyed many families and separated many peoples from their love ones. I am sadden to see that many children have lost their parents and parents have lost their children. Not to mention also wife who lost her husband and vise versa. It is just too devastating.

Among all the photos that I came across, I’m quite touch with this one. The photo shows a man tried to use his motorcycle to carry his wife’s dead body to the nearby mortuary. Reason being, he did not want his wife body to be exposed under that kind of condition in the ruin city. This is maybe his last chance to show his care and love to his wife.

I salute this man and hope that the journey was a smooth one.

I hope that the Sichuan peoples can recover as soon as possible in order to face the challenges ahead of them.

Have you ever been walking down the street, minding your own business, when all of a sudden, you see a drop-dead gorgeous woman that you’d cut off your right hand to meet walking along as well?

At that moment, you’re probably thinking to yourself: “I want to meet that girl! But how?” Arguably, meeting a woman on the street, cold is one of the hardest things to do! People are busy, they feel exposed on the open sidewalk, and their defences are UP. You ever have a bum accost you while walking someplace and ask for money?

Well guess what: Trying to meet a woman on the street is about equal to that! So what’s a guy to do? Just give up and let that beautiful woman pass you by?

Of course not. I have the DEFINITIVE SOLUTION for you guys:

Trying to stop a moving target or group is POINTLESS. Even though they may only be walking to a club to meet someone, and you are good enough to meet, their moving gives them what I like to call a “false time constraint.”

In other words, they are in a HURRY to get NOWHERE FAST!

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