When you see an attractive girl, you walk up to her and started a conversation.  Things seem to go smoothly,  she’s responding well but later, all of a sudden, you run out of stuff to say!  And the awkward pause ensues.  And before you know it, the girl excuses herself and walk away. Is the scenario sound familiar? You are not alone, this type of thing happens all the time. And it typically happens because guys just don’t know how to talk to girls!  They may have their first couple of lines ready to go to get the conversation started, but after a while, they are just “winging it.” But all too often, when it gets to the point where they have to talk to the girl, and they don’t have anything already thought out, their brain stall, and the conversation dies on natural death.

Not too many people realize that there is an art to conversation.  Able to get it started is one thing, but keeping it going is another thing. If you have ever been that situation mentioned above, you know what I am talking about.

So how can you keep the conversation going from the beginning? The answer to this is pretty simple. First of all, understand that questions are the building blocks of conversations. Every question you ask a girl leads to a new and exciting part of the interaction. The problem is that most guys ask the wrong or inappropriate  questions. They ask your typical boring questions like “what’s your name?” “where do you live?” “what do you do for living?”  etc…

Now, these aren’t bad questions - after all, you do need this information at some point but you can’t rely on these kind of questions to keep an conversation going healthy!  Instead, you have to ask fun, exciting, interesting questions that will actually engage the your audience, and make her want to keep talking to you. For example, instead of asking her what she does, ask something like…“Hey, do you work requires you to handle kids?  I can tell that you are rather patience.  I bet you love small animals too.”  In that example, we asked her a number of questions, but we did so in an interesting way. We asked her what her job was - but we took a guess that it had to do with kids.  Whether we were right or not is irrelevant.  Either way, she’ll let us know what she does. We also asked her if she liked kids, without coming out and saying it.  We also asked her if she liked animals, without being obvious. This can lead to conversations about her pets, what kind of pets she’d want, etc. Finally, we pointed out a “feeling” she gave us.

This can lead us into a conversation about the girl. And this is the real key in talking to girls – make the conversation about her. That isn’t to say you should never talk about yourself, but when you keep the conversation focused on her, she will get the feeling that you’re interested in her. Girls love to talk about themselves. So when you ask the right questions, and keepthe conversation focusing her - who she is and what she likes and dislikes, you can keep any conversation moving in the right direction.