Do you miss your ex? Do you want your ex back? And yet, you don’t know what can you do to get your ex back. Here, I’m going to share with you some tips to make your dream come true, to have your ex back. Many people have tried these simple and yet powerful tips and it is proven that it worked for many peoples.

The first thing might sound ridiculous; you must tell your ex that you agree to breakup. Let me explain further, what you want to do is let your ex know that you agree with the breakup because your ex may not be expecting you to do this.

When you agree with the breakup, you want to make sure you’re calm and collected. You don’t want to cry on the phone or indicate that you are upset. You want to portrait this as you are now free to go out and have fun.

If your ex won’t answer your phone calls, you should send him/her a hand written letter, indicates that you want to let him/her know that he/she was right and that you agree with the breakup. In addition, apologise for causing your ex in such a situation. Again, your ex will be surprised and won’t be expecting you to do this.

As a result, your ex may sympathise against you and think that you finally understand what went wrong. This is effective at helping you get your ex back.

While waiting for your ex to respond, you should go out. Do not stay at home during this time. Because by doing that, you’ll become desperate and impatient. So, go out and have fun with your buddies as if nothing happen. You will be surprised what will happen in a day or two.

I assume that you deserve to have your ex come back to you because you did not make any devastating mistake or the problems between the two of you are not that serious. Don’t let it happen again if you think that he/she is important to you. So if that is the case, let start working, don’t let another day goes by without doing anything and hope that your ex will come back to you.

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Would you ever settle for a guy that loves you to death but he is not your cup of tea, just because you don’t want to be single or you started to doubt that your dream guy exists, or you are hoping that you’ll eventually love him as much as he loves you?

Dream guy would be someone you knew you loved and could accept his imperfections as readily as he could accept yours. Hence, settling would mean that you will be staying with someone you could not truly love or be happy with because it seemed “less bad” than being single.

If you settle with a guy just because you are afraid of being single for the rest of your life, then you will be unhappy as the day goes by. You are likely to break his heart at later stage by telling him that you are not suitable for him.

You should be honest about how you feel, It will not be fair for the girl to lead the guy on & make him waste his feelings on the girl, and don’t worry too much about his feelings; you can’t keep pretending that you love him. The guy might be hurt at first, by breaking up with him early; you will give him a chance to recover faster and find someone that suits him. He deserves a chance to find happiness with someone who loves him as much as he would love her.

However, some believe that it is better to be with someone who’s madly in love with you, because they will be an accommodating, thoughtful spouse in the future. It is much less painful to be the one who loves less than the one who loves more, because if you love more, he will not work for your love as much. Does that make sense? If you are not in love with the person at this time, could you find aspects of his personality to appreciate?

All of us are human being who may get angry over different things, impulse in the first reaction and fighting over the trivial matters. We sometimes make mistakes but most don’t like to admit it either?.  However, don’t think that an apology is just an admission of a wrong doing, it’s an admission that we understand that we unintentionally caused an upset in our partner’s life. It’s about communicating that you’re not so caught up in yourself that you don’t realize the effect you have on your partner.

When the time comes for you to make an apology, apply the following simple principles to make your amends.

1. Make the apology about them, not you- How often have you heard an apology start off with an excuse? When you are giving reasons for your behaviour you’re not showing your partner that you care about their feelings. You’re actually communicating that you are worried about yours. Make sure your intent isn’t to get the focus off of you.
2. Listen to your partner and then acknowledge it- It’s difficult to listen to negative things being said about ourselves. However, if we hope to bridge the gap, we need to listen in order to understand our partner’s point-of-view. Once you know what has caused the upset, be sure to acknowledge that you understand. For example, “I can see how being late made you feel like you’re not a priority to me. I’m sorry that it made you upset. I should have called to let you know what was going on.”
3. Make amends-When you’ve hurt someone’s feelings it’s important to give a little something extra back. Imagine it’s like putting your apology into action. If you’ve caused an upset, make an effort to do something a little out of the ordinary to make up for it. Let them choose what movie to watch; cook their favourite dinner.
4. Handle the original problem-If you repeat causing the upsets with your partner; it might be time for an internal look at why you are repeating actions that you know upsets them. Talk it through with your partner and try to come to some sort of compromise or solution to the situation.

Sometimes, a warm cuddle or tight hug without a word will do the magic.  It could be the best medication to make-up after not seeing eye to eye.

Would you rather a girl was honest with you about what she wanted from the start or do you like the mysterious playing hard to get type? Do you prefer to have the thrill of the chase or know what she wants?

First of all, I have some advice for the ladies. “MEN DO NOT TAKE HINTS VERY WELL”. So for the most part, I like the direct approach. I do not want to invest a lot of time and effort into trying to “figure out” what a woman likes, only to find that we have opposing wants, values and goals.

Playing hard-to-get is juvenile thinking. If you’re interested, show it. If you’re not interested, then it’s fine to be polite but keep minimum contact. As long as you’re not going overboard too early when showing interest, then it should be fine if she’s interested back. If she’s not interested back, then you move on. Unrequited interest happens all the time with both genders. Showing him interest is not fluttering your eyelashes while wondering why he hasn’t approached you and asked for your number yet. Showing interest is a matter of repeatedly going out of your way to smile at him, talk with him, etc.

However, the right mix of both is healthy. I’m not sure I ever want to be super surprised about something so much that I am saying to myself “I thought I knew her better than that”, but at the same time having everything always as the same ‘ole same ‘ole takes the fun out of it all. The best relationships I’ve ever had are the ones where a woman gives me just enough honesty and comfort to make me feel secure, but not so much that all the “chase” is gone…..

Men pay a lot of attention to women’s looks. When we see a cute girl walk into a room, our eyes automatically go that way, and we feel like we want to introduce ourselves and get to know you better. I will agree with you if you claim that this fact of life is not ideal, but I don’t know what to do about it.

How strongly women reciprocate these tendencies? I should think that women are attracted to different things, but you may ask how strong the gut-level attraction is, on average. Do you think it is approximately the same in both genders, or are women less attentive of physical appearances, as many people seem to believe?

I believe it’s the same in both genders - we all check each other out, I know some do. I’m sure many women will disagree with me, but I honestly believe it’s pretty much the same on both sides as god given us eyes for us to see the beauty of his creature…lol. However, I must admit that men have the tendency to stare longer and more deliberately than women, though.

Man’s looks may attract women’s attention but if the man do not poses the value that a woman is looking for, she may leave very soon. Just like men, women may look first for the physical appearance of men but the most important thing for is the attitude once the women get to know more about the men.

In addition, it has a lot to do with whether you are in a relationship or not. While a lot of men in relationships still stare a lot at other women, but women tend not to stare at other men as much when they’re in a loving relationship. They still do it, of course, but it’s not quite as frequent.

Again, god creates everyone differently

1. If you don’t have a child of your own, then it might be nice to have one, by proxy.
2. You tend to see the world thru the eyes of a child when you are around one, you see the butterflies, the rainbows, the things we are too busy to sometimes see since we are grown up now.
3. You laugh more than you used to. You appreciate quiet more, since you might not hear it as much.
4. Better reason to go to Toys “R” Us and Chuck E. Cheese’s too!
5. Christmas is a lot more fun, so is Halloween.

Negative-

1. You’ll probably have to take care of the kids at one point or another, which means the guy, may just start using you as a FREE baby sitter.
2. If the relationship ever gets serious-remember you’ll be a mother before you know it.
3. The kids may not approve of your relationship (may affect the adults relationship)
4. There is a bond between the parent and child that is strong and at times the child may pit you against your S/O for fun.
5. They may resent you being in their lives
6. Your opinion about something your S/O does with the child may not go over so well if you give your advice.
7. If there is a child, then there is an EX, and we don’t even want to go there now, do we??
8. There is less chance of spur of the moment things, depending on the age of the children; you may need to get a babysitter.
9. There is also the chance of conflicts and animosity arising between you and the mother of his children or his former in-laws, assuming that the guy was formerly married to his kids’ mother. That is something that can put a severe strain on any relationship.

I think every situation is different; one may be totally polar opposite of someone else. A female friend of mine has two girls, and her hubby has a boy and they have just got married and just beginning to meld the two families together, it’s interesting to say the least. There is only way to find out the pros and cons yourself, try it!!!!

I believe you head a lot of stories from here and there, about peoples ending their relationships of several years as each day passes. Did you pause and think about these phenomena? Is it possible to keep romance going for decades with only one person, or is it just an illusion? Why are men more romantic than women? Why I say this is because of the fact that men are the ones writing poems, love letters, coming up with special surprises most of the time. I know not all the time, but I’ve been that it was the case most of the time. Why? In movies and novels women seem to be more romantic but in real life, it is the opposite.

There are different schools of thought. Some said it is totally unrealistic to think romance will last forever due to people change with environment and experiences in life, they grow up, and they mature. Life itself is never constant, and it’s the same thing with romance. Indeed, nothing lasts forever. One shouldn’t base life on what one sees in Hollywood or reads in romance novels. Real life is vastly different. Especially for most teens and young peoples, they are totally into anything romantic and they believe in all this “forever and ever” stuff. Sure, romance is nice, but to expect it to be there all the time, every day, last forever, etc is just being delusional. Reality doesn’t work that way.
On the other side of the coin, some insisted that romance can last forever! But it’s not something that just happens. It’s truly an effort on both sides to go out of your way for the other person even when you may not feel like it. It’s about putting the other people’s needs and feelings before your own. It would be sweet of you to wake up a little early to slip a note in your spouse pocket/hand beg before he/she leaves for work. It might brighten his/her day. You know?? It doesn’t just happen–you have to consciously think about it and make an effort.

For me, I think romance changes over time, but if both people work at it, it will not die. I truly believe this. Call me a fool, but romance can and does last! Romance is a two way street. You can’t begin a romance when it’s one sided. You can’t hold on to one unless both keep working at it. When one person doesn’t bother doing the extra’s anymore, the other thinks, “Why should I have to do it all?”

Do you agree with me? Your comments are welcome

It depends on the couple, which doesn’t give any answers lol… but I think it really does depend

Living together before marriage has a way of bringing out everyone’s true habits and true nature, and that is what makes it hard. Any problem that arise before you adjust to living together, such as one being messier than the other and not pulling their weight with the chores, will get sorted out before you get married and won’t put a damper on the newly wedded bliss.

I’ve seen many couples who lived together before marriage break up because the woman always wanted to get married and thought it would happen once they’d been living together for a while but the man never wanted to get married. So before you move in with anyone…you better have a strong foundation.

If only they’d discussed how they felt about marriage before they moved in together, sure they would probably have still broken up, but at least they wouldn’t have spent so much time on a relationship that wasn’t going to last, and wouldn’t have had the added hassle of changing living arrangements when they broke up. So personally I think it’s dangerous to move in together without first discussing your views on marriage.

But if the couple have discussed marriage and agree it’s something you both want and you both want to live together first then I don’t see any problem with it. If both of you already sure you want to get married, I don’t think it’s a bad idea. But I think how good an idea it is depends somewhat on how old you are, whether you’ve both lived away from your parents already or not, and how much time you’ve actually spent together as a couple given it’s an LDR. If you’ve both always lived with your parents and haven’t spent a lot of time together in person then it would be a good idea to live on your own or with friends closer to each other so that you can learn to live on your own and spend more time together before you move in together. But that’s just my personal view.

Anyway, I don’t think it’s a good idea to use living together as a test of your relationship. I think that if you’re not already sure that you’re right for each other and can make it work then there’s too big a chance that it won’t work and you’ll break up and you’d be better off not moving in together (at least until those doubts are gone).

As for myself, I moved in with my gf (That was 10 years ago anyway). Ironically, my reason for doing that was none of the above. I did not think too much (I was young and innocent thenJ) because what I wanted was to save living cost since we both live far from our families then. Fortunately, we did not have any major relationship problem after that and got married 2 years later.

There are many factors that go into creating a loving relationship. Certainly it helps if two people have some things in common regarding how they like to spend their time. It also helps if they have common values around religion or spirituality, around politics, the environment, abortion, and personal growth. It helps if they both eat junk food or both eat organic food. It makes things easier if both are neat or both are messy, if both are on time people or both are late people. Physical attraction is also quite important. It’s great if they have common values around money and spending.

Yet a couple can have all of these and still not have a loving relationship if one element is missing. Without this essential ingredient, all the other wonderful attributes will not be enough to make the relationship work.

This essential ingredient is about intention.

At any given moment, each of us is devoted to only one of two different intentions: to control or to learn. When our intention is to control, our deepest motivation is to have control over getting love, avoiding pain, and feeling safe. When our intention is to learn, our deepest motivation is to learn about being loving to ourselves and others.
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Have you ever been walking down the street, minding your own business, when all of a sudden, you see a drop-dead gorgeous woman that you’d cut off your right hand to meet walking along as well?

At that moment, you’re probably thinking to yourself: “I want to meet that girl! But how?” Arguably, meeting a woman on the street, cold is one of the hardest things to do! People are busy, they feel exposed on the open sidewalk, and their defences are UP. You ever have a bum accost you while walking someplace and ask for money?

Well guess what: Trying to meet a woman on the street is about equal to that! So what’s a guy to do? Just give up and let that beautiful woman pass you by?

Of course not. I have the DEFINITIVE SOLUTION for you guys:

Trying to stop a moving target or group is POINTLESS. Even though they may only be walking to a club to meet someone, and you are good enough to meet, their moving gives them what I like to call a “false time constraint.”

In other words, they are in a HURRY to get NOWHERE FAST!

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