A girl could be very open online, but when you meet and talk to her in person, she may be distracted, nervous, awkward, many straight yes or no answers, minimum eye contact feeling unsettle and find excuses to leave early. However, she becomes more open the next time when you talk to her again online. How would you handle her?

1. Give her some time if you are “new” to her. You have to be patience. Just continue to be her friend in order to gain her trust. She may like you but afraid to say or do something stupid when she is with the guy, whereas when chatting online, she can think about what to type before she hit “enter” key. Hence, start to talk to her on the phone more often and then hang out with her in person more frequently. Remember, the longer you talk to her on-line, the harder for her to change.
2. Use open ended questions such as “How was your day?” or “What did you think about what Mr ABC said in class today?” and avoid asking simple yes or no questions. Listen to what she says and ask her to elaborate. Learn to be comfortable with silence it’ll give her time to think about what to say next instead of you trying to keep the conversation afloat by saying randomness.
3. Smile a lot and be very encouraging. Do something that is part of her interests. For instance, if she likes photography, you could invite her to a park & you both
   can take photos of the view.

Especially for women in Asia, they are expected to be reserved. Do things that interest her and she will open up sooner. Guys should learn to be more patience as good things in life are worth waiting for.

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Couples often go through the dilemma of what they should do after their first date. Usually there are three answers you are expecting a yes, a no or a maybe. But sometimes you are extremely affirmative that the other person would call you or they wouldn’t. but make sure you do not ruin your self esteem. Waiting a day or two is never a big deal.

I understand you are anxious and want to know the answer right away, but hold your horses. If you know you guys had a great time together, you clicked then you should think optimistically. For guys if they know their date went well they won’t be too scared to take chances. If they liked you, then do not worry you should be getting a call the next morning or at least a day later. If a guy knows that he didn’t like you or thought you were a complete freak, even if you call him the tone of his voice would suggest the no in his answer. If he tries to talk about other random stuff, tells you he is very busy or any other thing. You should know that he is not interested in meeting up for the second time. Make sure you are very polite when your date drops you off.

If you are interested in them, tell them you had a great night, and hope to see them soon. Try to give them a green signal, but do not go overboard either. If you were completely bugged by them and there is no way you would ever want to meet them again then be polite, tell them thank you, and avoid a kiss, and say bye.

It is often hard saying no to people, but you need to understand that finding yourself the right partner is essential. You do not want to date anybody thinking it doesn’t’ matter, because it surely does. Be careful do not be scared, be optimistic and take your chances. If you hear a no a couple of times that does not mean something is lacking in you it is only that you haven’t met the right person yet. meeting new people should be exciting to you, so play along and have fun

By Lara Lee

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What to do you do after you meet a woman?  Don’t be surprised, it is “storytelling”!  Are you facing problem such as you can not think of anything to talk about?  In most cases, when the woman would get bored, she will eventually excuse herself for something more interesting.

The funny thing is, I realize that the same story can be recycled again and again, the more you repeat, the more refine the story is. Practice make perfect!  What I realized was that though I was bored with the stories, the girls were completely captivated by them! It’s funny, because most men who are naturals with women are usually good story tellers. They’re able to tell a story in an entertaining manner, you can’t help but have a good time with them!

Remember the formula: Storytelling = Entertainment = Good Time and if you can show a woman a good time, they’ll always want to attach to you! Now, another interesting fact is that always tell the same stories over and over again. This is because they perfect their stories every time they tell them, and they also know which stories work to get the women they’re talking to interested! But these stories all have something in common, no matter who is telling what story.  There’s one common factor that binds them all together. It’s the “secret” of every natural ladies man anywhere, and I’m going to share it with you right now.

THE STORY IS ALL ABOUT THE WOMEN! That’s right. They talk about themselves. Do your homework so that you have some good stories. They should be stories from your life that are entertaining. Make sure your stories are lively and exited! Otherwise, your interaction with her will end very soon.

Next, ask her some questions about herself. Simple question like “Where is your hometown,” or “What do you do during free time.” Keep finding out more about herself until you find something you that you can blend into your own stories.

For instance, if she’s from LA, and tell you experience all about LA and surrounding! It is crucial to tell stories that relate to the experience so that you can create a sense of connection with her. It is a way of creating a common experience you both share. Remember that old phrase “We have so much in common!”? Well, that’s important because peoples feel comfortable towards what they are familiar.  When she is more familiar with you, it will be the easier for you to get a date.

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Some men may not know or do not have the slightest idea if a woman is ready to be kissed. These men may be sitting
beside their dates talking too much they suddenly realize how the lips of their dates are so kissable.
Their imagination will then take control, but this would also mean disaster if done wrong. This may often leave these men without a second chance for another date with the woman.

If a guy finds himself talking to a girl and wondering if she’s ready to be kissed, he may softly touch her hair and give a compliment about it.

If the girl shows a favorable reaction, this may be a sign of getting closer to a kiss. Get closer and try reaching for her hair again.

Touch the hair tips and simply gaze on her lips and eyes. The fact that she does not mind about you getting closer to
her is a sign that she is comfortable. This is a sign for a guy to go and kiss the girl.

Some guys try to go out on an adventurous date in order to make the kissing move more suave and natural. One particular example is a guy who usually takes a girl to a small boat ride on a river.

Upon sailing along the river, he happens to direct the boat to a place covered with trees and fireflies – truly a romantic place to kiss.

A guy can also take her date to some ancient ruins in a local spot and manage to spend time walking until dark. These ruins usually light up at night.

The guy can take his date to the top of the ruins where hey can see the city all beautifully lit up. This is when he guy should make a move and kiss his date.

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When you see an attractive girl, you walk up to her and started a conversation.  Things seem to go smoothly,  she’s responding well but later, all of a sudden, you run out of stuff to say!  And the awkward pause ensues.  And before you know it, the girl excuses herself and walk away. Is the scenario sound familiar? You are not alone, this type of thing happens all the time. And it typically happens because guys just don’t know how to talk to girls!  They may have their first couple of lines ready to go to get the conversation started, but after a while, they are just “winging it.” But all too often, when it gets to the point where they have to talk to the girl, and they don’t have anything already thought out, their brain stall, and the conversation dies on natural death.

Not too many people realize that there is an art to conversation.  Able to get it started is one thing, but keeping it going is another thing. If you have ever been that situation mentioned above, you know what I am talking about.

So how can you keep the conversation going from the beginning? The answer to this is pretty simple. First of all, understand that questions are the building blocks of conversations. Every question you ask a girl leads to a new and exciting part of the interaction. The problem is that most guys ask the wrong or inappropriate  questions. They ask your typical boring questions like “what’s your name?” “where do you live?” “what do you do for living?”  etc…

Now, these aren’t bad questions – after all, you do need this information at some point but you can’t rely on these kind of questions to keep an conversation going healthy!  Instead, you have to ask fun, exciting, interesting questions that will actually engage the your audience, and make her want to keep talking to you. For example, instead of asking her what she does, ask something like…“Hey, do you work requires you to handle kids?  I can tell that you are rather patience.  I bet you love small animals too.”  In that example, we asked her a number of questions, but we did so in an interesting way. We asked her what her job was – but we took a guess that it had to do with kids.  Whether we were right or not is irrelevant.  Either way, she’ll let us know what she does. We also asked her if she liked kids, without coming out and saying it.  We also asked her if she liked animals, without being obvious. This can lead to conversations about her pets, what kind of pets she’d want, etc. Finally, we pointed out a “feeling” she gave us.

This can lead us into a conversation about the girl. And this is the real key in talking to girls – make the conversation about her. That isn’t to say you should never talk about yourself, but when you keep the conversation focused on her, she will get the feeling that you’re interested in her. Girls love to talk about themselves. So when you ask the right questions, and keepthe conversation focusing her – who she is and what she likes and dislikes, you can keep any conversation moving in the right direction.

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Usually, you shouldn’t go all out with a kiss at the end of a first date. First date kisses mostly involve light pecks at the cheeks or even on the lips. These kisses should only be allowed once you feel comfortable enough with your date.

The right time to kiss is usually the most romantic moments of the date. When you feel that you’re close enough to your
date while having fun doing a set of adventurous activities, this might be the right time to kiss. If you’re talking while having a quiet walk at the park and you notice that he’s looking directly at your eyes, this is usually another one of those right kissing moments.

Try to look at his eyes and see if he’s sincere enough to ive you a light kiss on the lips. You’ll usually feel if it’s just the right time to kiss. Sharing moments are usually the best times to kiss on a ate, especially if you’re talking about something personal.

The situation doesn’t need to be dramatic and serious to iss. The right moment to kiss during these sharing moments is when you feel comfortable sharing your personal perceptions and experiences with your date.

At the end of the date, you can give him a light peck at the cheeks if you had fun with him on your first date after he has taken you home safe and sound.

You can give him a friendly kiss on the lips if you happen to have fun with him again on your second date. Afterwards,
a fertile imagination is all you need when it comes to the kisses you’ll be having on your succeeding dates.

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Women in search for a knight in shining armor in real life dating should not lower her standards while searching online.
Create an interesting profile. This is one way to attract your prince charming. The content of your profile should be
honest and true if you are looking for someone who’ll be you’re partner for a long and intimate relationship.

Thus, put something on your profile that can make a good first impression. This impression should also last a lifetime. Keep in mind to upload a photo with your most attractive smile.

Avoid overly sexual photos – upload sexy photos, but limit it to PG13 viewing. Let’s include your safety. Make sure your common sense is working well. Do not give your personal home address to your online date. If you plan to meet up somewhere, have someone to accompany you or know about your plans. If uneasiness is felt while being with your date, you have the right to stop and cut all contact off between the both of you. It is better to be safe than sorry.

Online dating is a rapidly growing activity. Better hurry and carry on these tips to start your wonderful search for your partner.

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So you’ve just joined an online dating community. Do not be discouraged when your prospect dates have not yet responded
to your queries.

Women members of online dating portals receive an average of fifty to 200 queries from other members of the opposite
sex. This means she’s just taking time going through all the queries she had received. You need to be a bit more patient.

Have a proactive approach when it comes to online dating. Focusing on one woman would reduce your chances of landing
a response. Try sending messages to different women in order to bolster the probabilities of getting a good response.


Carefully choosing your would-be dates is a good thing to do since this would help you land the dates who have the
same interests as yours. However, don’t be too selective. You have to try creating a unique profile when sending
messages. Make it stand out because there will be a lot of messages for one woman from other members of the online
dating community.

Starting out with an interesting username is favorable. In addition, read through the profiles of your intended partners in order to incorporate a few things they like on your own profile, but keep in mind to include just the things you are actually interested in.

By doing so, your prospective partners will read through your profile after receiving a query from you and end up
remembering you because of the stuff that’s on your profile.

She may even feel that you took the time to read through her profile and subsequently establish a connection with her. Be truthful about the things you put on your profile. Lying about stuff will just ruin your entire reputation in the online dating community. In addition, it will be harder to correct lies whenever you and your dates have known each other better. It would also prevent you from enjoying while you’re on a date with the other members of the online dating community because you’ll be too careful to cover up all the lies you’ve told your dates before you got to go out on a date with them.

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